Learn how to take accountability in your life?

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How to take responsibility for your life?

May 3, 2021 10 min read

This article was translated using AI technologies from our Spanish edition. Errors can occur due to this process.

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The word “responsibility” is one of those with a weight of its own. Some fear it, others accept it. And we all see it in a very special way.

In human development, responsibility can be viewed as responsiveness (responsiveness = responsiveness), and as such, it is the domain you have over certain areas that enables you to effectively control and act on what is presented.

The question is: why are you running away from responsibility? It can be out of consolation, fear of the uncertainty of the outcome, and even obvious mediocrity.

However, people who commit to taking their livelihood into their own hands take responsibility. It’s not about overloading yourself with excessive tasks, but rather asserting yourself over the aspects you are participating in to make things work. And this can only be achieved through specific action.

The simple fact of thinking about what it means to be responsible – with you first; then, in front of others and later in the interaction with the environment in which you move – implies a high and non-delegable level of commitment, which can be difficult for many people. That is why they prefer to be irresponsible in the broadest sense of the word. Think and answer yourself: which of these people are you?

Respond proactively or proactively: the choice is yours

Depending on the concern the situation arouses when you participate, three types of responsibility can be distinguished: reactive, proactive and creative.

Stephen Covey, lecturer and management specialist, comments that when the person gets caught in a real or imaginary circle of worry, emotions dominate, reducing their circle of influence. This is what happens when it is operating in reactive mode.

Conversely, when the person moves and takes responsibility, they begin to expand their sphere of influence, reduce anxiety, and enter a proactive virtuous space.

In connection with these concepts, three levels of personal responsibility for the issues in which we interact can be identified: reactive, proactive and also creative. It all depends on the position you want to take in front of them.

Reactive responsibility

This behavior indicates that you are reacting before an event, even if it is late, even though you had evidence that something might happen. It is common to hear many justifications and interpretations as to why the delay in action occurs after the event.

For example, in the middle of something you’ve seen in your personal or professional world, even if it’s late, you’ll do your best to minimize the harm. It’s like trying to put out a fire with a bucket that children play instead of calling the fire department.

We could say that it was a reactive fait accompli, even though there were already signs and at times you even had all the information about how things were going to play out.

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There is a study that was carried out in the state of Louisiana, USA, after many cities were destroyed by Hurricane Katrina. They asked the lost everything victims if they thought that in some way they might have some aspect of responsibility for this tragedy. The vast majority were extremely offended; and a small handful of people said yes, for example because they made a conscious choice to live in an area that is a frequent epicenter of hurricanes, or did not have appropriate insurance, or did not follow or follow the safety warnings that were issued had not made the building permits valid there.

Some typical sentences from people who act with reactive responsibility are: “I didn’t notice what was happening”, “I tried but …”, “I planned to do it”, “I forgot to warn that this could happen “,” From anyway I helped fix the problem “,” I feel helpless “(and it does not work to reduce the damage) or” It’s the fault of … “

As you can see, there is a lot of victim behavior going on in these cases instead of taking full responsibility for your decision not to act.

Proactive accountability

If so, you have done your best to avoid damage before it occurs. At a deeper level, you may have analyzed possible scenarios and their causes. You have worked on it and established a process to follow in the event of an unexpected event. That means you have taken action.

In designing event prevention mechanisms, you are allowing the possibility of events that you would later regret to be minimized.

For example, in the teams of commercial executives from different companies that I work with, it is common for them to prepare contingency plans in sensitive situations and design alternative scenarios in advance that will allow them to do so, despite the fact that the paths are divergent or not the right ones. that they expected. I also have customers who have been trained not only in their companies but also in their families in the design of prevention procedures.

In the dynamic of responsibility, it is extremely important that you take an active role and adopt the habit of being proactive in order to get the best possible outcome and anticipate the events that might occur. In disciplines such as engineering and the natural sciences, this is a standard procedure, for example when setting safety standards that are adhered to without exception.

To ponder, here are a few sentences from those who are proactively responsible: “I have to act immediately”, “I take responsibility for the situation”, “Who will help me shape this part of the problem as we do it together?” , “I look for the best alternatives”, “I know that I can solve what happens when we move in together”.

Creative responsibility

In this case, the application of your creative responsibilities will be achieved through vision and ingenuity, a talent that all human beings have, although many say otherwise with expressions such as “I am not creative”.

To illustrate: Once a customer in the tourism sector was completely paralyzed as a result of the coronavirus pandemic. He put himself in the situation and used his creativity. He found a way to generate income by running a series of virtual seminars on his subject area, which in turn enabled him to promote his services. With participants from different countries, he managed to attract customers and forge a European alliance to hold the same seminars for other organizations.

In other words, when you act with creative responsibility, you are constantly trying to solve problems instead of solving them completely. However, they keep moving constructively.

In such cases one often hears people say, “I’m looking for a return to this question”, “I will think of something brilliant”, “I am a creative person and I know how to get ahead”, “I am responsible for the problem and will solve it. “

3 more ideas about responsibility

Think together:

1. People do not resist change. resists change

A meme is circulating on social media that shows people in two rows: A sign reads, “Who wants a change?” and you see a very long tail. The other line shows “Who wants to change?” And only shows two or three people.

This shows that change begins with the individual and emerges from an internal decision to take responsibility for all events in your life.

2. Change question by question

This strategy will help you reverse situations where you don’t know whether to take responsibility or not. Ask yourself: What is preventing me from taking responsibility for this situation? Is there an internal pattern that I hold onto to act like this? What can happen if I take responsibility? What can I do if I don’t take responsibility?

It is about widening your field of vision to situations to choose responsibility over victimization and inaction.

3. Change the protest for a proposal and make a claim

As you’ve seen, the big key to taking responsibility is taking action by taking responsibility. By not taking responsibility, you are protesting in any way or by not doing so you are explaining your implicit or tacit disagreement. So move on to suggestions and alternatives, and always suggest at least three courses of action: This is responsible proactivity in its purest form.

Even in the reactive mode of responsibility, reproaches of reproach appear externally. Every time you point your finger outward, you are deviating from your responsibilities and falling into your role as a victim. This is the case with people who say, “I am sticking to such a thing, but do not ask me to hand in my signature and document.” That’s lukewarm in terms of your responsibilities. It is preferable that you accept a resounding no.

So instead of reproaching you when you disagree with something, change it against a formal claim with your signature and stamp: It is significantly different. This form implies that you take full responsibility and set some alternatives in motion, because the point is not just to protest, but to generate solutions.

As Les Brown says, the invitation is: “Take responsibility for your life. You need to know that it is you who are taking you where you want to go. There is no one else. “”

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